Saturday, October 17, 2009

Adoption versus Birth

Many people have asked me what my experience has been like giving birth to Cali as opposed to adopting Bella and Ez. I welcome the curiosity as I have always been very open about infertility, adoption, and apparently my life in general. I guess since most people have not been lucky enough to adopt, they naturally wonder if they could ever love a child that isn't genetically related to them the way they love their biological children. I, on the other hand, can't seem to understand why biology has anything to do with love.

To sum up adoption versus pregnancy and birth is simple. They both offer unique, wonderful, challenging, and at times miserable experiences. Neither has been better or worse for me, just different. But the end result is the same. A child of my own to love, nurture, guide, snuggle, to test the outer limits of my patience, and to remind me of how very, very blessed I am.

And look at these adorable faces! Who could ever love one more than the other?


One thing is for sure...Cali is lucky to have an older brother and sister and they likewise are lucky to have a little sister.

4 comments:

Heather said...

They are so adorable. I can't believe Ezra is two. Where does the time go? Glad you are all doing well. LOVES!

Debi said...

I have wondered about the adoption vs biological thing, but its something I don't think I would ever ask! It was good to hear your point of view! I figured the only difference between the two was the recovery part! :) You sound like a great mom! :)

Lisa said...

Love is love no matter how you get them right?! Not only are they lucky to have each other they are lucky to have you and Blaine as well. Darling pictures. Cali looks so big!

Howard and Karleen Hamilton said...

Families are forever!!!! So grateful that each of your precious children came to you when they were suppose to come and the way they were suppose to come. Five years of unbelievable blessings! Lucky kids, lucky parents! We love you all! Mom and Dad H.